Is tagdeaf.com getting ugly?
By Fookem and Bug
Tagdeaf.com “TD” is one of many social networking sites such as AllDeaf, MySpace, Facebook, Orkut, etc. Tagdeaf was developed by Alex Chu, the founder of the Deaf forum at www.AllDeaf.com.
Presently, TD has about 9636 members. About 15 percent of them use it all the time or every other day or so. In a population this large there has to be those who don’t play well with others, some even downright nasty. This site itself mostly in comments to a member’s post, sometime those who don’t respect the rules, will write anything bad about another member or anyone such as non-members, website owners, co-workers, classmates, etc . This is not merely expressing a different opinion, something that should be encouraged but expressing that opinion in a malicious manner. Many people love disagreeing with their virtual friends without any logic, yet the same people do not know how to deal with anyone disagreeing with them in the offline world.
While social networking sites can increase a person’s circle of friends, they can also increase exposure to people with less than friendly intentions. TD is either a good site or not, it is everyone’s personal choice to join as a member or not. More and more people are interacting online for many different reasons. For examples: they do not have time to hang out, or they do not know how to interact with people in the offline world, or they want to improve their writing skills, or they want to make new friends, or they ask for some personal advices relating to the computers issues, traveling, friends, etc. That is both good and bad. We wonder if the online socializing networking sites are helping people destroy their own offline socializing skill, by over-simplifying the concept of communicating with others. Do online social networking sites both help and damage communication skills ?
However, many tagdeaf members leave tagdeaf for some personal reasons. Many people felt so betrayed and belitted because they thought they were friends. Many people said that website owner Alex is unprofessional. Some said that he has no monitors to watch over his website. Others said it’s unethical when he shared the information about his members with others. He banned some people for no reasons.
Fookem was a member of TD for 4 months. He was banned in September 2006 after he asked other TD members in the Tagdeaf chatroom, “What if Alex hosts the Deaf Camp, will you go or not?”. A few hours later Fookem was not be able to access his account on this TD site. Also, Bug was a member at TagDeaf.com for a good 7 months. The fun was beginning until it got worst because of scammers, backstabbers, hateful gossipers, aggressive behaviors, etc. Bug requested the owner to cancel his account in November 2006. After he left, many people thought that Bug got banned but not.
There is a growing trend where people act in different manners that some people find themselves consider to be smart, and they assume that such online actions, related to socializing, make them smart in the offline world. Lot of them doesn’t realize that they have been fallen into the traps where others would attack and hurt. Many people love disagreeing with their virtual friends without any logic, yet the same people do not know how to deal with anyone disagreeing with them in the offline world.
When it got out of control. Many members posted and left their angry comments until the tagdeaf owner Alex stepped in and wrote on his website (TagDeaf) on December 30, 2007:
Ok, I’m sure I’m not the only one here that’s getting really tired of the negative posts that’s taken place in forums, blogs, bulletins and profiles lately. These negative posts are mostly about one’s personal beef with another member. This has to stop RIGHT NOW.
If you have a problem with another member, take it outside of TagDeaf.com, please. That includes messaging the other member you have a problem with.
If you don’t like TagDeaf for whatever reason, don’t whine about it here, instead don’t bother visiting the site at all and move on.
If you want to quit TagDeaf, don’t post about it anywhere on the site, instead message me privately and ask for your account to be removed and I’ll gladly do so.
Rumors, backstabbing, lying, all that BS has got to stop, seriously. TagDeaf isn’t the place for all that nonsense. There’s already enough of that drama in the real world, no need to bring it here.
Anyone that refuses to cooperate will get a warning following a permanent ban. I hate to do this but I have to do what I have to do.
If you have any questions related to the topic, post in here.
The different issues have not been solved. Until last week many members start to speak out against the owner. One of this message was written by TD Member MtDewTaz8 on April 11, 2008, which it was interesting. It was posted before Alex removed it. Read on:
Hi, Alex. I have also emailed you this with same contents. I am pasting this statement from the Terms of Conditions found at the bottom of TD website with my highlights in RED:
6. Your Conduct . You agree that all information or data of any kind, whether text, software, code, music or sound, photographs or graphics, video or other materials (“Content”), publicly or privately provided, shall be the sole responsibility of the person providing the Content or the person whose user account is used. You agree that our web site may expose you to Content that may be objectionable or offensive. We shall not be responsible to you in any way for the Content that appears on this web site nor for any error or omission.
You explicitly agree, in using this web site, or any service provided, that you shall not:
(a) provide any Content or perform any conduct that may be unlawful, illegal, threatening, harmful, abusive, harassing, stalking, tortious, defamatory, libelous, vulgar, obscene, offensive, objectionable, pornographic, designed to or does interfere or interrupt this web site or any service provided, infected with a virus or other destructive or deleterious programming routine, give rise to civil or criminal liability, or which may violate an applicable local, national or international law;
(b) impersonate or misrepresent your association with any person or entity, or forge or otherwise seek to conceal or misrepresent the origin of any Content provided by you;
(c) collect or harvest any data about other users;
(d) provide or use this web site and any Content or service in any commercial manner or in any manner that would involve junk mail, spam, chain letters, pyramid schemes, or any other form of unauthorized advertising without our prior written consent;
(e) provide any Content that may give rise to our civil or criminal liability or which may constitute or be considered a violation of any local, national or international law, including but not limited to laws relating to copyright, trademark, patent, or trade secrets.
So, Alex, what I am inquiring about the recent incident where someone posted an inflammatory nude pictures of a current TD member in an innocent friend of the person’s forum. That’s an apparent violation of Terms & Conditions of a membership here on TagDeaf and some people MAY have reported this to you. Yet, I do not understand……you have not banned this particular person who have made the disgusting posting which I am pretty sure you are familiar with.
This is a severe violation, Alex, because it is harmful, offensive, pornographic nature of a TD member. I know you do not get along with this TD member but it is imperative for you to take action in accordance with terms & conditions you set forth for your website operations. I thought that the TD member who made the slanderous posting would get the hook if you have more professional wisdom to ban this person and block her IP address permanently even though she is among your friends’ circles and be sure that this TD member would not be able to once access TD again under different name whether using same or different IP address.
Alex, I believe that if you do not follow up with this and enforce the terms & conditions then others will see that and take advantage to harm other members and placing more burden on your shoulders which you do not needly deserve. It may “weaken” your control over your website operations as they know they can get away with it thanks to their casual friendship relationship with you.
Please do comment, thanks! Other people who read this are welcome to make comments as well. Have a good day!
Why did Alex remove MtDewTaz8’s? Were the issues solved? Also, there are other members of AllDeaf or TagDeaf sharing their public experience and opinion about the TagDeaf.com. Read on: