What Are Deaf Persons Feeling About Their Deafness?
Individuals differ, of course, but it has been generally found that deaf people have mixed feelings. Some people felt ambivalent about their deafness. They derive a sense of belonging and wholeness from their fellow members of the deaf community, and these feelings of group solidarity sustain them even into old age.
Membership in the deaf community involves identification with deaf people, shared experiences in school and work, and active participation in group activities with other deaf people. Most notably deaf community members share frustrating experience trying to communicate in the hearing world. Some hearing individuals, such as educators, counselors, and spouses can be “courtest” members. However, only deaf persons can really know what deafness means. Neither social class nor sex nor religion are important attributes for membership; the major distinguishing criteria are communication skill and preference.
Sometimes, deaf people wish to be hearing because they can work like police officers, soldiers, helicopter pilot, airplane pilot (big plane not small one), etc. Not just because they want to become hearing . They are disgusted with having to deal with the lies, myth, pressures, etc. from the hearing world such as restrictions, discrimination, can’t this, cant that. Is that correct?
Of course, many of us are proud to be DEAF. Admit it, do you ever wish to be hearing for one min or so? Sure! Everybody has a reason, it’s nothing wrong with that. Do you remember those sentences ” It’s nothing.”, “oh sorry, never mind”, ” I will tell you later.” ” you can’t hear, you don’t need to know. “. etc. These words are always there daily everywhere in the world, why is that? Sad but true …hearing people feel sorry because Deaf people do not hear. But they are the ones who are really deaf to our voices, our needs, our language, and our culture. Seem like we have to face and deal with these audist people everyday.
However, it is important to remind yourself that you are you. Don’t let anyone change you. You can change yourself whatever it makes you happy or just accept yourself. You are a whole person with your mind, heart, and soul. Speak your mind. Speak your heart. Speak your soul.